Creating the Love Life you Truly Deserve

Dear Beautiful Soul,

I know from personal experience what it’s like to feel powerless in your love life. To wonder why things never seem to work out the way you hope. To feel like no matter how much you give, you’re left with too little in return. I've walked this path for many years, wondering what I was doing wrong, or if I just wasn't lucky in love. "You can't have it all in life," a dear person once told me. What she meant was, you were already privileged and spoiled as a child, now stop expecting more from life. Expecting more meant: being selfish and ungrateful.

Or so I thought.

It can be exhausting — and lonely — to keep trying, only to end up in the same painful patterns. To feel that this might be your fate. But please hear me when I say this: you are not stuck, and you are not broken. You can create the love life you want and deserve. And it doesn’t start with finding “the one.” It starts with you.

When you begin to work on yourself — to start healing, you rediscover your worth, you truly know what you desire — and it is then that everything shifts. You stop chasing people who can’t meet you where you are. You stop shrinking to fit someone else’s comfort zone. You stop accepting less than the respect, passion, and care you deserve. And it's not about being selfish, spoiled, or ungrateful. We aren't supposed to settle for the bare minimum in love or life. We are worthy. But often life makes us believe we are not.

Here’s what I want you to remember:

You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to set standards. You are allowed to want more — and to believe it’s possible. You just have to give yourself permission.

Start small:

• Journal about what you truly want in love (not what you’ve been told to want).

• Notice patterns from the past without judgment — just curiosity.

• Set one boundary this week that feels good and honors your worth.

Every step toward yourself is a step toward the love you deserve.

And if you notice that certain patterns feel impossible to break on your own… please don’t carry that weight by yourself. Sometimes, the wounds go deep. Seeking therapy, trauma healing, or professional guidance is not a weakness — it’s one of the most powerful acts of self-love you will ever make.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, this is your invitation

Reflective guidance can help you see your patterns, heal old wounds, and walk toward the relationship you’ve always dreamed of — first with yourself, and eventually with someone truly worthy of you.

The love you deserve is waiting. And it starts the moment you decide to choose yourself.

With love and firm belief in you,

Desiree

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desiree@love-by-design.com

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